Allow Happiness In

“The seed of suffering in you may be strong, but don’t wait until you have no more suffering before allowing yourself to be happy.” Thich Nhat Hanh

One of my sons has cut himself off from communicating with his whole family. I have not talked to him for almost three years now. Last summer he left for an assignment and has not been in contact with this wife and children. Since he left, he has talked to each of his brothers once or twice. He has explained his reason for severing contact as being oon a covert assignment. This may explain why he is not in contact with his family,now, but I have no reason to understand why he has closed the doors on me.

I am free to support his family, which is my family, too. But, my being there with them is not what they want. I can send money, which they do not need. I attempted to set up a Skype or Zoom gathering of the extended family during the holidays, for which I would need visual help, but got no reply to my request for it.

Instead of falling into deep despair with a painfully heavy heart, I let myself feel the rejection and isolation. I did not wallow in it. I simply felt this natural response to not having a way to be supportive or have any way to make communication happen between us all.

I sat in meditation each day for several days until I was able to listen to my heart’s song to me. The music was kind to me. I felt safe.. I relaxed into the rhythmic arms of silence and fell asleep.

When I awoke, I was content and felt the radiance of pure joy. The message was clear. I will be aware of the resilience in myself and in my son’s family. I trust that whatever the suffering he is experiencing, it is rooted in the same challenge as the rest of us.

We each have our own lessons to learn out of our suffering. The decisions we make are expressly aimed at the lessons we need to learn in this life time.

I can let go of my need to fix everyone. I can let go of yearning for things to be different than as they are. I can glean the goodness resting in the heart of this so that tragedy is transformed into the grand adventure of being happy.  I would otherwise be crushed with grief.

The same change of perspective applies to what is happening everywhere in the world today. People are waking up to a new understanding.  We are in the midst of a radical transformation in consciousness. We can support the new compassion emerging which is energizing changes and adaptations to life as it is. We can say, ”Yes,” in complimenting each other for our gifts and skills. We can listen deeply.

I have a feeling deep within my heart, that all will be well eventually with my family and with the patterns of compassion emerging in the world today.

With joy as my guide, I support the potential growing in the way life is.

Breathing in I calm the body and mind. Breathing out I smile.